I came across a post recently at Amanda’s The Declassified Adoptee blog that asked the question: is it the job of the adopted to teach?
I strongly believe it is our job to help educate those who may not understand that:
- Many of us deal with unacknowledged, unprocessed, unexplainable grief.
- Many of us have trouble attaching ourselves to other human beings.
- Many of us are overwhelmed with sadness on our birthday.
- Many of us are thankful we were adopted and love our adoptive families in the same way people who aren’t adopted love their families.
- Many of us feel guilty if we express a desire to understand our biological heritage.
Yes, it is our job to teach. In a compassionate, non-judgemental way, we can influence the future; we can help pave the way for change so those children who are being adopted today and tomorrow will have a different experience. They will be able to celebrate who they are without shame and the burden of living in the shadow of secrets.
More than our job, I believe it is our honor to teach. It is why I am writing my book.
What do you think?