I attended a workshop in Richmond, BC recently, put on the by the Forget Me Not Family Society called Good Grief. I suppose I should have realized there would be members of the adoption constellation in attendance other than adoptees but I was surprised that first night when I learned there were birth mothers, and even one adoptive mom, there.
At first I was annoyed that the birth mothers were there. Despite all I’ve done to work through my feelings about being adopted I haven’t completely let go of the anger; it still surfaces on occasion, though much less frequently than it once did. I was not interested in hearing about their birth mother grief. They chose their path.
But as I listened to these women speak, and witnessed their sincere anguish, I had no choice but to hop down off of my self-righteous high horse and consider another point of view. They were not uncaring monsters who abandoned their babies. They were women faced with difficult choices at a time when society had no tolerance for their situation who did the best they could do.
November is Adoption Awareness Month. Chances are you know someone who has been touched by adoption. Surveys done by the Even B. Donaldson Adoption Institute indicate that about 60% of Americans have personal experience with adoption in that they, or a family member or close friend, was adopted, had adopted a child, or placed a child for adoption. Experts believe there are between 6 and 8 million adoptees in America.
Do you want to learn more?
- Jennifer Lauck is presenting a series of free live teleseminars this month about adoption and healing.
- Judy M. Miller has a new e-guide called What to Expect From You Adopted Tween.
- Tapestry Books has an excellent selection of adoption-related books.
Come back often throughout the month. I’ll be sharing more adoption-related information each week.