Cause of death

A number of years ago, I received a letter from the agency that handled my adoption. This letter contained non-identifying information about my birth family. It was the first opportunity that I had to date to learn anything about my family of origin and I devoured the information looking for clues to fill in the blanks of who I was.

Lately I’ve been thinking about my maternal grandmother. The letter stated that she died of menopause! It’s kind of interesting to speculate about what her real cause of death was given that, as far as I know, it’s not possible to actually die as a result of menopause!

For the past couple of days I have felt a kinship to my grandmother. If it actually were possible to die of menopause, I think that I must be getting close to that point. I am so tired of not sleeping well, of hormone-related mood swings, of sleeping in Lake Michigan as a result of night sweats, and other things that I won’t even write about. (probably already TMI!)

Yuck…yuck…and more yuck.


I’m a writer, reader, and creative. I thought by now I’d have things figured out, but I keep coming up with more questions. I think that’s okay. I’m here most mornings pondering ordinary things and the thin places where faith intersects.
  1. Well, there you have it. I guess we’re not exaggerating when we think menopause is going to kill us!

    I’ve enjoyed getting caught up with your blog. Your grandbaby is just beautiful. Grandkids are a ways off for me (I hope), but in some ways I just can’t wait. I miss having a baby to snuggle.

    I so agree with you about the “child playing” cones! A cul-de-sac near our house had them set up and I felt so annoyed. A cul-de-sac for heaven’s sake. To me it seemed as though the parents were roping off the entire area for their kids to play. But, I’m somewhat of a curmudgeon too;)

  2. You poor thing! I’ll be thinking of you through this.

  3. Death by menopause? It feels like that sometimes doesn’t it? I totally relate.
    I’m sorry they didn’t have better information on her death. I sure hope you were able to get some other answers you were looking for. You’re an amazing woman! Don’t give up!

  4. After an endometrial ablation, mine passed pretty quickly. Ug! (Maybe the typist meant “menangitis”? And I’m sure I didn’t spell that correctly.) 🙂

  5. Trust me–it gets better! I crank on the air at night and have learned to anticipate what gives me those hot flashes. Mood gets better too!

  6. My mom is going through the night sweats something terrible right now, she probably feels like “death by menopause”, I wish you could have found out more about your family.

  7. I guess the good thing about mood swings…is that they do swing back to the good side in time! Thank you for the encouraging words everyone.

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