Recently, I shared with you the fact that my brother Frank is very ill. Since then, he was admitted to hospital few weeks ago and was not expected to come out.
Frank is my half-brother; we share a common father. I have never met him in person; in fact I didn’t know anything about the paternal side of my family until a few years ago. Frank was the first person I spoke with when I made contact with that part of my family; his was the first letter I received.
I will always remember his first words to me, “Well, this is a surprise”. And I’m sure that was an understatement! Imagine being in your 60’s and discovering a sister that you never knew you had!
Toward the end of last week Frank was suddenly adamant that he be allowed to go home immediately. Arrangements were made, his wishes were respected, and he was taken home. Sadly, he wasn’t able to remain at his home for long; the pain was unmanageable and he needed to return to the hospital for it to be managed effectively.
Frank and his wife use a pellet stove to heat their home, and recently arrangements have been underway to install a new gas stove. In the short time that he was home, my brother was able to review the paperwork attached to the installation and approve the work to proceed.
Some of us are wondering if Frank’s urgency about going home had something to do with him needing to tend to this in order to make sure his wife will be comfortable in the coming winter.
Adoptees sometimes wonder about the characteristics of the family they descended from. We wonder what medical issues may have been passed on to us and we wonder what personality characteristics we might share with our family of origin.
Frank and I share some of the same DNA.
I hope we also share some of the same strength of character, honor, and integrity.
Update: Frank lost his battle with cancer later on the day this was posted.